Handling Emotional Immature People
You might be spending the holidays with someone who says repulsive things. Not coincidentally, you might also have a hard time communicating with this person. Here's the number one thing to remember:
There are no magic words that will unlock their understanding. They are who they are. They believe what they believe. Your communication skills have nothing to do with it. Let yourself off this hook.
The second thing that might be helpful is this:
When you need to communicate something (boundaries much?), keep your message simple and repeat it as many times as necessary. This kind of communication is boring, but it’s hard to create drama from boring.
P.S. This episode from We Can Do Hard Things is so good.